Sunday, November 29, 2009

Holy Hell! Two posts not Weeks Away!

What's wrong with me?!

Well procrastinating a paper is part of the reason.

Also, Rufus Wainwright is my musical discovery of the week and I have no idea why I didn't know about him before. Good lord, wonderful musician. Good god I'm so gay... haha.


Yesterday I participated on a panel for a conference put on by the Pride Center for and about transgendered people called "Un(Packing) Gender." You see the month of November is Transgendered awareness month, celebrating the "T" in LGBT.

For those who don't know, Transgendered is when a persons gender does not match up with their biological sex and so they live out the gender that they feel more aligns with themselves. This means dressing and acting the part of the gender they chose and in some cases having surgery performed and undergoing hormone therapy to get their physical bodies in line.

So with that background in place, what is the opposite of transgendered?

Cis-gender

This brings me back to the panel, which was entitled "Ask a Cis-gendered Person." I was one of those panelists who's gender has generally matched their sex. That is to say, I identify with being a man and have the physical sex of being one (replace man with woman for the ladies out there).

Being Cis-gendered carries a lot of privilege with it. For instance, you don't ever have to worry about what pronoun people will use for you ("he" "she"), it is generally assumed.

I was asked some questions about things I've never considered before. I would like to now open some of these questions up to you all, dear readers, to consider and answer, if you would like.


When did you first realize you were Cis-gendered? How did your friends and family react?

What do you like best about your gender?

Have you ever been confused for being the other gender? How did that make you feel?

Do you feel you have to overcompensate for any perceived lack of gender appropriate clothing? (i.e. if you don't dress masculine enough do you have to act more masculine?)



Just some food for though. Let's not forget the transgendered people in our community. They exist, they can be gay straight bi or queer as well, and they are often thrown under the bus when it comes to civil rights.


Have a good week ya'll,


Matt

4 comments:

  1. Hey Matt ... here is my answers .... When did you first realize you were Cis-gendered? How did your friends and family react? I have always know , like being my gender. Never really question it ... neither did my family or friends ...

    What do you like best about your gender? Don't have to face child birth... Think it is easier to live as a male in society . Not agreeing with it but am paid more.

    Have you ever been confused for being the other gender? How did that make you feel?
    I am all the time on the phone ... I have a woman sounding voice... it used to drive me crazy ... but it the only thing I been confused for is my voice...
    Do you feel you have to overcompensate for any perceived lack of gender appropriate clothing? (i.e. if you don't dress masculine enough do you have to act more masculine?) No I like man things ... so it not overcompensating it what I like ... I do dress like I do because I have to .. I like it ... really don't care how one looks at me .. I am going to be comfortable .. reason I don't try to lower my voice ... it is not comfortable to do that actually not nature .. and is trying ... It is me
    But that said I dont have a problem with trans either . Be what makes you comfortable ... not attracted to trans .. but that me just not my thing ...

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  2. Gotta laugh at the cis/trans thing. Gender isomerism, now there's a concept dear to a gay chemist's heart.

    Seriously I've always been completely comfortable with my gender. I couldn't comprehend transexuality till I got to university when I met some amazing transgendered people. They were really diverse, the one thing they had in common was their strength and bravery. The more people are pushed to the margins cos of their gender or sexuality, the more they deserve our support.

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  3. When did you first realize you were Cis-gendered? How did your friends and family react?

    Umm, I never questioned it. I was like, so yeah I have a penis you know, so I'm a man >_>



    What do you like best about your gender?

    LOL I agree with Just- no childbirth :P
    But I also like having a penis and stuff...




    Have you ever been confused for being the other gender? How did that make you feel?

    Yes, over the phone a few times. I laughed at them. (My voice is.. not feminine)




    Do you feel you have to overcompensate for any perceived lack of gender appropriate clothing? (i.e. if you don't dress masculine enough do you have to act more masculine?)

    Absolutely not lollllll

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  4. Matt

    tough thing to be and did you note that Sony and Cheer's kid chasity just underwent the surgery

    When did you first realize you were Cis-gendered? How did your friends and family react?

    Ok since i just became aware of the word i gues ten minutes ago and i have never had any reaction to whoi have appeared as in life

    What do you like best about your gender?

    its all i know so i dont have any specific answer as ive never had anything to compare it against.

    Have you ever been confused for being the other gender? How did that make you feel?

    No i have not that i remember.

    Do you feel you have to overcompensate for any perceived lack of gender appropriate clothing? (i.e. if you don't dress masculine enough do you have to act more masculine?)

    no i wear traditionally looking gender appropiate clothing

    take care and be safe

    bob

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